As a quick refresher from Friday’s blog, modesty is defined as: a special characteristic in dress, speech or conduct – not bold, or self-asserting: but instead being cautious not to offend.
So, what are some ways we may offend with our dressing? Well, first of all we need to always dresss appropriately for whatever the occasion may be.
For instance if you are headed to a wedding you must be cautious not to “out-do” the bride. Or perhaps you are going into a business meeting where you are an integral part but not the CEO. You need to dress professionally and tastefully making certain you do not call more attention to yourself than your role dictates.
However, the most important way we, as women, may offend with our dressing is when we do not show respect for the men around us. Whether that be your husband, male friends, boy-friends, fellow workers or male bosses – modesty shows repect to men and men respond to respect. Respect means to value, admire and show consideration for.
Unfortunately in today’s society women are not taught to show respect in either their actions or their fashion choices. All men are wired to respond to a woman’s body. That is how God created them so that mankind would pro-create and not become extinct. However, as women we are not to push a man’s sexual buttons in public arenas or with men who are not our spouses.
Dressing mysteriously and sensually can be alright with men we are dating or engaged to. Even then, though, we must be cautious not to offend. Be sure you are respecting them. You do not want to be responsible for making them respond to you in ways that are inappropriate.
caring for you,
Carin g Hansen
I found your post very interesting. I think your point about respecting men by dressing modestly is very important for women to understand. I write a quarterly column on modesty for a magazine and currently did a post on it on my own blog. I might link your post to it, if you don’t mind?
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